I actually disagree with your assessment of that first essay, though I also disagree with the writer, in that I do not find floaty, "peace and love" hippie-ish girls with diaphanous scarves "amazing" in any way, shape or form. But more of that anon.
The writer who annoyed you does generalize completely, and categorizes those types of child/girl-women shamelessly. But the point seems to me to be about how and why men choose to be with those types of women, rather than more challenging women, and that directly leads to the second "pixie" post, and to your comments above. I have no problem with the generalization, because 1)it's a comic post and 2)her point is well taken about the men.
But returning to my quibble with the general premise of "amazing girls," I say again that females who waft through life in an all-nurturing, non-judgmental cloud are not people I want to know. If in fact they do exist (and they do - I know a few) they are boring and bland and quite often sickening. Plus, I do not trust that it is not an act, in some cases. As a point of fact, a man who was constantly kind and non-judmental and nurturing would give me the same case of the heebie-jeebies.
I don't like what the whole idea says about gender roles, or how men cannot bear to be challenged, and must constantly be surrounded by non-threatening ethereal types. I doubt it's true, in any case. That's why I'm happy to accept the essay - both of them, as hyperbole, and written to amuse. But as for me, surround me with smartass, dark-humored, bawdy, judgmental, challenging, difficult, fully-rounded and imperfect people of both sexes and you'll find me a happy camper.
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The writer who annoyed you does generalize completely, and categorizes those types of child/girl-women shamelessly. But the point seems to me to be about how and why men choose to be with those types of women, rather than more challenging women, and that directly leads to the second "pixie" post, and to your comments above. I have no problem with the generalization, because 1)it's a comic post and 2)her point is well taken about the men.
But returning to my quibble with the general premise of "amazing girls," I say again that females who waft through life in an all-nurturing, non-judgmental cloud are not people I want to know. If in fact they do exist (and they do - I know a few) they are boring and bland and quite often sickening. Plus, I do not trust that it is not an act, in some cases. As a point of fact, a man who was constantly kind and non-judmental and nurturing would give me the same case of the heebie-jeebies.
I don't like what the whole idea says about gender roles, or how men cannot bear to be challenged, and must constantly be surrounded by non-threatening ethereal types. I doubt it's true, in any case. That's why I'm happy to accept the essay - both of them, as hyperbole, and written to amuse. But as for me, surround me with smartass, dark-humored, bawdy, judgmental, challenging, difficult, fully-rounded and imperfect people of both sexes and you'll find me a happy camper.