Thank you! This line: "Isn’t the definition of a feminist somebody who sees that a woman can and is able and SHOULD be whoever she chooses to be, from career woman, to mother, to artist, to prostitute?" is something I agree with so much. When my kids were small, I stayed home with them, and almost every self-proclaimed feminist I spoke to during that time immediately blanked me as soon as she found out I wasn't just like her. In their minds, it didn't matter that I was staying home because I chose to. They saw an insult to their own idea of what a woman should be, and went out of their way to be rude to me. And that's just as bad as a man who loudly proclaims that women should stay in the kitchen.

Feminism isn't about conforming to some arbitrary feminist ideal. Feminism is believing that only you have the right to decide how you live your life, and living it accordingly. Feminism is making your own choices, and taking responsibility for the choices you make. Feminism is not accepting, for one second, that you deserve less freedom/respect/education than the guy standing next to you.