Oh my daaaaaahling Clementine...

[mrsronweasley]

This is another one of those things that's been on my mind lately. So, yes, that's a warning. I mean, not that I expect people to read the whole thing as is, but just, for the two or three left reading this journal? Yeah. *g*


You know, I've heard quite a few people say, over the years, and for a while, held some of that opinion myself: that not until you've been with somebody of your own sex, sexually, can you know that you're gay. Or bi. One of the people who thinks this, also thinks the opposite, so we'll give them credit. To an extent, it may be true. But not entirely, and it drives me crazy that people think you're just bullshitting or pretending to be something you're not when you say that you like girls, too, but have never been with a girl. Because I haven't. But it doesn't mean shit.

By the time I was finally ok with being bi, and had accepted it (oh, the DRAMA of 14!), I met Sam, and, well, that was over two years ago. But, at the same time, I had a huge crush on Marie, while in England, and it was horrible, in a way, because I had Sam at home. Anyway, to cut the soap opera of my life short, just because nothing ever happened with her, doesn't mean I wouldn't have wanted it, or liked it. That's what pisses me off. It should be about desire, shouldn't it? If you know that you want someone, just because you don't get it (and there may be many different reasons for it), doesn't mean that it isn't true. Look at priests. They don't get to have anybody, but it doesn't mean that they're completely asexual, and I'm sure that they have learned very well to fight their fleshly urges, but when they were teenagers, can you imagine? Everybody goes nuts when they're that age, even if they never find an outlet for it.

My point is, it IS possible to be bisexual without having ever experienced one half of that. I'm not being pretentious, I'm not trying to be something I'm not, I'm not trying to be cool (because, you know, gay is a fad now!), I'm simply saying: I like girls. So, there. And it wasn't a choice I had made. It was a fact, one that was not so much when I was fourteen. Or eleven, for that matter. But anyway.

I'm done now. So, can anybody help with the layout? Pretty please? Maybe with some smut on top, if you're into that kind of thing? Or something else, if you aren't?

(See, I've been reduced to begging. That's what lack of knowledge gets you, kids! Stay in school!)

Oh, and yes -

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Haha, that last thing (how many people are still reading my journal) is so true. But I think voxmaille and I are quite all right. *g*

Comments

[perceval.livejournal.com]

I agree - you don't have to experienced sex with somebody from a certain gender to know your orientation. You simply know who you want to shag.

[mrsronweasley.livejournal.com]

Exactly. *g*

[lea-ndra.livejournal.com]

I also agree. It's about love and desire, not if you had sex or not.

[mrsronweasley.livejournal.com]

Yes, yes, and yes. And have I mentioned yet how much I love your icon? I fucking love that movie, I don't care what anybody else says. It's good. And it makes me happy.

[lea-ndra.livejournal.com]

I love that movie, too. It has Sean Patrick Flanery being very sexy and Tara Reid being sexy, and drooling over SPF and it also has femslash.

[julianelupin.livejournal.com]

Thank you. I like what you said. You put into words a lot of what I was thinking. :-)

[mrsronweasley.livejournal.com]

I'm glad, and you're very welcome. It's been frustrating me for ages now, so I had to let it out... Heh. And your icon makes me laugh...a lot.

[zoesmith.livejournal.com]

Oh, really thank you for that!

Does it mean that someone has to sleep with a person of the opposite sex to be straight? Nope. You can't be sth that you aren't and you can't change who you are.

I get that a lot but I realized that I don't owe(spe?) them an explanation. The ones that matter understand me.

kisses be safe :-)

[mrsronweasley.livejournal.com]

Yeah, precisely. And it's the ones that understand that matter. :)

MWAAAAAAAAH!

[tefkas.livejournal.com]

I agree completely with you - it's about desire, not notches on bedposts.

Add I suspect your readership's more than 12%, somehow...

[mrsronweasley.livejournal.com]

I like the way you put that. *g* Hey, what happens to the notches if it's, say, an air mattress? Just a thought...

And...ahahahaha... you're too nice. :-P

*hugs*

[louve-mae.livejournal.com]

What you wrote rings so true to someone quite confused, it is like a breath of fresh air. Thank you.

And of course I'd want to meet you, lol. And I'm sure there are more than 12% of your LJ friends who read your entries. ^_^

Oh and, err, I love playing around with LJ layouts and stuff but I'm not very good and I have no other knowledge than the one I get from searching their FAQ and such. So if you get truly desperate, I may be able to give a hand... but you'd have to be really desperate, lol.

[mrsronweasley.livejournal.com]

Oh, you're welcome. Confused is...bad, but in a way, it'll get you to a place that will be clearer than any before. If that makes sense. I hope you get through it with as little injury as possible. *g*

Well, I just might have to use your talents! Hehe. Watch out. It might have to happen... When I've got more time to play around with the thing, anyway.

:)

[dannawhin.livejournal.com]

Oh, you said it. Thank you.

[mrsronweasley.livejournal.com]

No, thank YOU. :)

[newmaryjane.livejournal.com]

I agree. And I do actually read your entries, since I like you so much. =)

As far as layout stuff, I know HTML, but I don't know the LJ stuff. I can look into it if no one else knows though...

[mrsronweasley.livejournal.com]

Awww, thank you, on both counts. :)

Yeah, we'll see what happens with this. I might put it off until I'm a bit free-er (umm...don't know where that might be), but I'd appreciate any help. Thank you. :)

[angua9.livejournal.com]

Hee. Yeah, I definitely knew I was sexually attracted to boys LONG before I slept with one. I understand that some people are in denial, or whatever, but if you have strong sexual desires it's not like it's tough to recognize them in yourself.

[mrsronweasley.livejournal.com]

Yeah, exactly! It's like "I want this person. What does this MEAN?!" And it sucks that if it isn't socially acceptable, you really DO have to wonder what it means, instead of just going 'duh! I want this person!'

*sigh*

Love the icon. Heh.

[immovablemover.livejournal.com]

Cheers to you. I totally agree.

[mrsronweasley.livejournal.com]

Hee, yay. Miss you!

[thrihyrne.livejournal.com]

Sexuality, love, lust, passion, lack of desire, you name it... it's all confusing and polymorphous in my book. Thank you for sharing your thoughts- I enjoy reading your posts!

[mrsronweasley.livejournal.com]

Thank you! And yes, those things are confusing, and yet, they can be so simple. People MAKE them confusing, when they don't need to be, oftentimes. At least in some cases. You know? *sigh* Bah. People need to get over it, is what I say...

[dianora.livejournal.com]

Oh, I definitely agree. I know I like boys, and I knew it when I was four, which was 14 years before I finally got somewhere with one of them. ;) I don't have that certainty about girls, though. I've never had a moment where it was perfectly clear to me that I was sexually attracted to a girl, even though I also don't know for sure that that could never happen. So that's where I think the idea of being with someone before you can be certain about your orientation comes in. I get the feeling that if I ever kissed a girl, I'd have a better idea of whether or not I'm interested in girls in general. I don't think I am, but I don't know for sure. Obviously this little fancy of mine has plenty of flaws, because it would have to be the right girl just like it would have to be the right guy in order for me to enjoy it. But basically what I'm saying is that you can absolutely be sure without anything happening at all, but sometimes if you're not sure yet, a sexual experience can help you get your bearings. Or at least, I think it might make things clear to me. So, to make a long story short, I agree with you - people who say that are silly. ;)

[voxmaille.livejournal.com]

I will be happy to make out with you to ascertain your heterosexuality. ;p

[mrsronweasley.livejournal.com]

Oh, and because I've already ascertained mine, I don't get to make out with you? Pssh! I'm all sad now. *sigh*

[dianora.livejournal.com]

Okay, both you and Liz are going to think I'm really weird for posting this now, if you ever see it. But I think you posted this comment when LJ was slacking on the notifications, so I never even knew it was here. I certainly hope you didn't take my absence of reply as a rejection!!

[mrsronweasley.livejournal.com]

You're absolutely right - it helps to be with someone in order to fully understand and/or know, but yes, it isn't everything, and those that say otherwise are silly and don't know what they're talking about. And we're smarter anyway, right? *smirk*

Nice icon, by the way. Can I really, Jack?! *sigh*

[thepeevedpauper.livejournal.com]

Yes yes yes. HOW can people say that? Dude. I've got a girlfriend. I still find guys just as hot as I have since I got over the cootie thing. :P I've never been with a guy though. So apparently this means I'm only gay? Pssh.

Whee, fun talk! Heh.

Also, this is Jaime, too lazy to sign out from role-play world. :D

[mrsronweasley.livejournal.com]

Haha, I was wondering! I was all 'hmm, I wonder who THAT is...' Heh. And yes. You're GAY! GAY GAY GAAAAAAAAY! I don't care how many guys you've wanted to fuck, YOU ARE A GAY PERSON, DAMMIT!

Hehe.

MWAAAAAAAAH!